Alexis on the Sexes: Old spice

ALEXIS MCKINNIS , | Updated 9/11/2013

Where to go if you’re “52 but not dead.”

Q: You’ve probably been asked this question many times, so I apologize in advance. Where can a 52-year-old single male have a drink, listen to some music and possibly ask an age-appropriate woman to dance? I am physically fit, have an excellent wardrobe and have progressed with the times, so all options are open. I am 52, not dead! If you can answer this question, Alexis, you truly are an angel.


A: I’m sure I’ve answered it in the past, but that doesn’t mean I can’t answer it again! This column has been around for a while, so it’s probably time to take a fresh look at what’s out there in the Twin Cities. Here are some going out options for the cool quinquagenarian:

Redstone American Grill (Eden Prairie): I took your question to my Twitter followers (@amck), and this restaurant and bar was mentioned multiple times. Sure enough, the Eden Prairie location — yes, that one where a certain pro athlete may have gotten gropey in the bathroom — offers live music on Tuesdays and Wednesdays, as well as DJs on Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays. Be aware that Redstone is a noted cougar hotspot; you will find lots of pretty ladies in your age bracket, but your competition might be a bit younger. Dress sharp.

Bayside Grille (Excelsior): The sun may be setting on summer, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take advantage of the beautiful sunsets over Lake Minnetonka. Bayside Grille is a particular favorite spot with locals that also got a mention on my Twitter feed. They’ve got live music on Fridays and Saturdays for you to enjoy after taking in the stunning view. Bayside also offers ladies’ night on Thursdays, with drink specials that go until midnight.

Hell’s Kitchen (Minneapolis): Downtown’s best brunch destination also keeps things cooking into the late night. Local bands rock the basement stage Wednesday through Saturday nights and there’s hardly ever a cover. Sip signature cocktails with house-infused booze until you’re feeling saucy enough to invite a lady onto the dance floor. Hell’s Kitchen also offers its full menu until 11 p.m. on the weekends, should you need to refuel.

Minnesota Music Cafe (St. Paul): The more things change, the more they stay the same, and that definitely applies here. The happy hour is great, the food is tasty and cheap, and you’d have to try hard not to find live music at St. Paul’s top spot for local rock, jazz and R&B bands. You also won’t have to worry about being the creepy older guy in the club; the Cafe is popular with the 35-plus set, and they are not afraid to dance.

Bunker’s Music Bar & Grill (Minneapolis): More bands, more dancing! Live music seven days a week including Dr. Mambo’s Combo, arguably one of the best live bands in the Twin Cities. They’ve got the most casual atmosphere you’ll find in the North Loop, but it’s still wise to bring old friends to help make new friends.

The Living Room and Prohibition at W Hotel (Minneapolis): It may be a big, comfy lobby bar by day, but this front room transforms into a sprawling, plush nightclub on weekends, complete with house DJs every Friday and Saturday night. If you need a quiet corner to chat, head upstairs to Prohibition, the hotel’s grown-up skyline lounge. The median age of the weekend clientele at the Living Room and Prohibition is right around 40, so a fit and dapper 52-year-old should feel right at home.

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